Monday, February 28, 2011

Things that matter to me: Breakthrough Urban Ministries

In the middle of 2009, I was introduced to this organization called Breakthrough Ministries. I didn't know a lot about it besides it was shelter located on the Westside of ChiCity (which is scary, scary place (not really, that's just the snobby Southsider in me coming out).

Anyhoo, a dear friend of mine, who has volunteered with the organization for many years, was leaving a job post there and tried to get me a hook-up on a job. While visiting, a group of potential volunteers went on a tour of facilities (I use the term loosely, it's not like it's a college campus). On the tour, we saw the two facilities that house those in dispair and crisises (one for women, the other for men). Though I went there trying to get a hook-up on job, it really impacted me. See, while I've done volunteer service before, it was just that: volunteering. That volunteering was more like a "wham, bam thank ma'am (or sir) (whatever floats your boat). Here, I felt some type of connection (mind you, I hadn't volunteered yet, so what connection I felt, who knows). While I felt that connection, it still took me some time to finally dedicate my time to the organization. For some odd reason, I was against volunteering anywhere but the Southside, guess my allegiance, but I couldn't find an organization that really spoke to me. Then I realized that was problem, I didn't just want to "volunteer", I wanted to be a part of something bigger. Finally, after some serious consideration (and some anonymous donations), I decided "woman" up and go help at Breakthrough.

I spend my time helping those trying to find their way back into the workforce: Reviewing resumes, mock interviews, helping write cover letters, etc. While this might be boring and mundane for some, I find this extremely interesting (and may I say, fun, errr). It's not the reviewing resumes part, but the part of working with my brothers and sisters who are at a low period in life, gain some self confidence and new skills. Not only am I helping them, but they're helping me. As much as I complain about not getting paid enough or I can't find my next fabulous job in PR, a lot of these people are just trying to get a job at the local grocery store. Everyone comes from so many walks of life: some never finished high school, others hold Master's degree, but along the way, got off track. Being here really makes me realize how blessed I really am and more so, that I should not judge others because at the end of the day, we all started at the same place and just got off track somewhere. I use to have a really elitist mind-set, but now I value different ideals and beliefs. As long as I'm working side by side with my fellow brothers and sisters, I'm a happy camper. I can proudly say, I may be broke financially (ain't that the truth), but I'm not broke spiritually (not anymore, at least).

I could continue my rant, but I've gone on too long (my colleague told me post should be no longer than 400 words, scrap that (sidenote: I curse like a sailor, so trying to make a habit of substituting my bad words, hey no one said you have to perfect to work in PR).

To learn more about Breakthrough, check out their website: http://www.breakthrough.org/

To end, here's a snippit of Dr. King's speech "I've been to the Mountaintop":

.....The first question that the [religious man] ... asked was, "If I stop to help this man, what will happen to me?" But then the Good Samaritan came by. And he reversed the question: "If I do not stop to help this man, what will happen to him?"
That's the question before you tonight. Not, "If I stop to help the sanitation workers, what will happen to my job." Not, "If I stop to help the sanitation workers what will happen to all of the hours that I usually spend in my office every day and every week as a pastor?" The question is not, "If I stop to help this man in need, what will happen to me?" The question is, "If I do not stop to help the sanitation workers, what will happen to them?" That's the question.


Friday, February 25, 2011

Why This Ish Is Not Okay: Advertisements for swishers

You know, I am not a perfect person. I have definitely done my share to not uphold the Black community (i.e. bascially making my parents invest in tons and tons of Tommy Hilfiger (i.e. the overalls with the logo on straps) or throwing my meat and cheese dorito bag on the ground (you know, the kind you go to the corner store to get for $1). Either way, I have grown-up (not completely) and some of the things I see in the "hood" that I use to overlook, I can no longer overlook.

One day I woke and all of a sudden was very militant (I'm thinking I should get a fun beret to match), I the ish I see being advertised to my community actually makes me physically sick. I mean, besides living in a "food desert" (look it up), where I can only find deep fried gyros and KFC, my eyes, along with the eyes of good citizens and young children are being assaulted buy advertisements for "swishers". (Note: I don't care how you get down with the "ohh weee", just keep it to yourself in the privacy of your own home, car, office (i guess if you are big time like that).

Everyday, on my way to work, I see the following: the local grocery store preparing for the day, a crossing guard helping school children cross the street and directly  to my left, a BIG A** sign selling "white tees" for $1, swisher 2 for $1 or a pack for $3. I'm at a lost, I just don't know what to do. When you head up North, you don't see these "types" of advertisements being so blantantly advertised. You don't see this in hipster Wicker Park (yea, you might see a smoke shop, but clearly we know children are not frequenting these stores like they are the local "hood" store to get milk for their house (or real talk, some laffy taffys)).
That wasn't even the one the blew me away (no pun intended), someone actually had the audacity to name their M'FN store "Swishers and Sweets". REALLY? "SWISHER AND DAMN SWEETS" How can an alderman/woman allow that? How can we as residents allow something so blatant to be placed into our neighborhoods?

Now, my people, this is not an issue of race, color or creed, this is an issue of helping your fellow brothers and sisters, clean up our neighborhoods because in some way we are all affected. Now, I'm new to this whole militant thing, so I need your help. Typing and complaining behind this computer board does nothing, but I'm looking to suggestions on how to be heard and have this assault on my eyes (and others) removed. I don't know about you, but if this is what we find acceptable, then imagine what the youth find acceptable (and believe these young kids are nothing to play with nowadays).

So, I ask "What should I (we) do?"

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Things I'm trying to learn (more about): World Affairs: Libya


I view myself as a pretty smart girl (I'm a huge fan of Jeopardy and read CNN.com everyday, lol), but I'm beginning to take more of an interest in world affairs. I'm not here to preach or act like I know more than I claim, but I do know the protests in Northern Africa and the Middle East are going to implement some huge social and economical policy changes around the world. I also know Moammar Gadhafi is crazy as hell! Who ambushes their own citizens in the middle of night and bombards them in their place of sanctuary (well, I can think of a few times here in the USA, where "authority" has committed similar acts, but I disgress)

Anyway, here's a link to an article I came across that gives you some brief history on  Moammar Gadhafi  and his 41 year reign in Libya: http://atlantapost.com/2011/02/23/from-libyas-revolutionary-to-libyas-enemy56988/

If you have more to offer, comment. I like learning (sometimes)

NOTE: I would suggest you do your own research as this is only one source
NOTE 2: I realize this is called "The Broke Socialite Now" not the "Talking Head", but these are things that interest and I want to talk about and hold discussions on. Promise the socializing will come soon enough :)

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Things I like:Variance by AEther








11 Variance by AEther

Okay, I'm about to get off my music kick posts, but just had to post this song. Absolutely, love it. I'm learning a lot more about AEther and the more I learn and listen the more I like. Enjoy yo self!

FYI: Yes, for you new skool R&B lovers, Trey "Wack" Songz did use this beat. Did you really think he could come up with a beat so sensual. Yea, right.

Things I like: Mexican Institute of Sound


Song: Devil Mental


I was recently introduced to the Mexican Institute of Sound. Now, I don't consider myself a music aficionado, but I know what I like and I like this. Enjoy yo self (yes, I meant to type that)!

Wiki (one of my fave sites): Mexican Institute of Sound (MIS; or Instituto Mexicano Del Sonido in Spanish) is an electronic music project created by Mexico City-based DJ and producer Camilo Lara. By day, Lara is the president of EMI Mexico and at night he is mastermind of M.I.S. Along with groups like Nortec Collective and Kinky, M.I.S. is part of a growing Mexican electronica movement, encouraging fusions of folk and more traditional music with modern sounds.

Things I like: Lil Kenny and the $he-Bangs




I like dance music a lot, especially underground dance music. I found this song back in '09 and it's still one of my faves. Best way to describe Lil Kenny and the $he-Bangs...... hmmm, they're like going to a disco, pretty out of your mind and having a blast. Yup, I'm going to go with that description. Enjoy yo self! Straight to youre head 01 by The Broke Socialite Now

The Power of God and ppl he places in your life

Anyhoo, as some of you may or may not know, I can be a very private person. This is probably the most public I've been about myself ever. Anyway, I will preface this post with this statement: I'm not here to put anyone on blast (never been my style, never will and it comes back to you). So, as I mentioned before, I'm a very private person, but sometimes if you don't share your story, you never know who is/was in the same situation as you. So, onto the point....

To make a long story short (cause real talk, who wants to read a long a** post, not me) I was in a serious relationship for many years of my young life (yes, yes I know, so many more years to go) and unfortunately that didn't really pan out as planned. Now, don't get me wrong, I love being a single gal, my patience is WAY TOO LOW with men and it takes a lot to get my attention. So, I was single for several years (swinging single, but not the swinging part, it's not like that) and happy as could be cause I had my friends (pointless of naming them). Well, towards the middle of 2010, I became extremely unhappy with my current situation: (I wasn't being fulfilled spiritually, I think I was running away from God and his Son), (Still in the LONG relationship, running in circles) and (the job where I was at was not fulfilling me). I tried to do things that I thought would make me happy (working out, dating (ugh, what a time waster), shopping (now paying for that). Anyway, to make a long story short, I basically had a mental breakdown (that's what I'm calling it, forget what you say). Now, what I did next surprised me and I've never really done this before: I got down on my knees, crying my heart out so loud my mom could hear me from the next room (she thought it was the TV, geez), and prayed to God to give me a partner (I didn't neccesarily ask for a boyfriend, cause they are way too much trouble), to grow spiritually with me. Well, low and behold, God actually heard me (now, that some crazy ish, scared the hell (no pun intended) outta me) and I met Awesome Guy the next day (which is what we will call him moving forward)

(Cause I know you probably have 30 minute lunch, let me fast forward) After a brief courtship, “Awesome Guy” and I broke up (none of your business why, but just know he is still an awesome guy in my book). Either way, my friends have really been there for me during this period. I could have went into a “whoa (sp), is me” type attitude (not very attractive, btw), but knowing that I have their love and support and that God placed them in my life is more of a blessing than I could ever have asked for. So, with that being said, I just wanted to say that God hears you and he places people in your life for certain reasons. Now, they may not be the reasons you expect (or prefer), but know God has a plan (ik, cliché, but you can go kick rocks if you don’t like it) and that the people in your life are there for a reason, so appreciate HIM and them at the same time.

FYI: I know this post kinda got cut off, but if you want to know the rest, you know how to find me (and no, I’m not going into detail about my relationship, you nosey bastards). This is only meant as testimony for God and inspiration for those who need it. So, wanted to get that off my chest, on the fun stuff

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

A New Day

So, this is my first blog post ever. I've been so anti-blogs for so long. Everyone has a blog, whether it be about traveling, food, parenting, etc, it seems everyone has something say, so who cares what I have to say. That's pretty odd coming from me. Most people view me as outspoken and witty (which I would say I am), but I also have a tendency to not say anything (I'm a staunch believer in "spoke when spoken to and when spoken to, still don't speak (thanks DT :)), but now I feel like speaking.

So, when I did decide to join the blog movement, I went back and forth on what I should write about. I mean, all blogs serve a specified purpose, right? So, I thought why don't I start of Macaroni and Cheese blog (I promise I'm not a fat girl, just a anything with cheese enthusiast) (also, don't get me wrong, there will be some mac and cheese reviews on this thing, just have to do it). Then I slightly considered a celeb blog, but then thought "naw, there's enough of those and at the end of the day I could give two big sh*ts about celebs (hey, they only way to really impress me if you're a celeb is to pay off my college loans). So, finally I thought what's the one topic I know best: How to be a broke socialite.

I'm young, I would say pretty (promise I'm not THAT vain), funny, people seem to like me and I get invited to a lot of really cool events. I'm also pretty broke (yea, I have a job where I make $40K plus, but hell after taxation in IL, student loans, car note ("Fake it til I make" copyright my Finance teacher in college), gym membership, going out, I'm about $100 away from putting on some clear heels (just joking, sort of)). So, figured I write from the vantage point of being a broke socialite.

I'm actually really excited about this as I have had some major events happen in my life as of recent that will make for a pretty interesting blog (born again, new self attitude, thought I found my husband (that turned out to be a bust) and more. So, as I've been so anti-blog for so long, I guess, I can say I've finally joined the masses.

Feel free to comment cause unless it's something meaningful, I could really give a damn (again, I promise I'm a nice, sweet girl. If you know, you're probably laughing because you can here my tone as I write this). So, onwards to keeping up with this thing (I hate ppl who blog once every blue moon, just delete the damn thing) and to great stories about my nightlife outings (with the person who I probably should marry, to bad he likes peen), my journey back to God, and how being me can be so great (and sh*tty) at the same time.

So, cheers!